Updated: Dec 30, 2019
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect in your life. It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections. But the fact is, life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget agbout those who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it. I have learned many life lessons on my pursuit to happiness and realized there are certain key factors that will help you on you path to being happy. As I guide you in certain aspects that you should be aware of, I hope i can guide you in being a happier person for the rest of your life.
They say "Dont let the silly little things steal your happiness". That was the case in my situation. Until I realized that imy life, my story..my book. and didnt want anyone else to write it.:not wanted to apologize for the mistakes I made. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy, living with yourself and looking yourself in mirror everyday is one. Unlike your hairstyle, being happy can never go out of style. I try to remind myself that we cant control the world. We can only control our own reactions to it. I try to focus on more lately knowing that I can cant the mind of others. There will always that miserable person out there complaining and whining about every little thing.
I set my happiness as soon as I wake up. On the weekends, I make sure I hit the gym as soon as i wash my face, pray, meditate, foam roll and drink some coffee. This sets me up for the entire day to me in a happy and confident mood. After a good workout, where your heartbeat is pumping, your sweating bullets, and feeling pump. There is nothing better then really starting your day off after that. I love working out and grateful that I able to do so. I am in the right space, I make the time in my schedule, and God has blessed me with a body to do so. This indreline can last me the whole day, especially on the weekends that I dont have my daughter, I can get 6 to 7 errons done in a great time. I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happienss to our lives. I believe that opens doors and friends. It softens hearts and molds those average relationships to ones that can last a meaning full lifetime.
I have really concentrated on maintaining healthy positive relationships in my life. By doing this, it has also increased my happiness. I now appreciate the support people show me in their lives, instead of always complaining and telling them what they arent doing. My parents were a prime example of that. For many years, I whined to my parents how I dont have this and I how I dont have that. Not knowing and understanding that they wanted me to experience the hard work and victory of obtaining something that we want. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy, For much more then to not be happy.
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. My compassion for others has gradually increase over the last few years. Mainly because I realized that I need to use my voice for kindness, my hands for charity, and my mind for the truth. Appreciating all of life's trials and tribulations and learning to become a truer, stronger, and more compassionate person has made me stronger. It has made me realize when what the true meaning of happiness is, and how to obtain it. I had a long phase in my life where I was obsessed with perfection. I wanted to perfect my body, the condition of my house, the quality of my work at my job, until i realized that I was just stressing myself out if trying to perfect everything. Instead, I've learned to slow down, take my time, and appreciate the journey in achieving success.
Dont ever be afraid to show who you really are, because as long as you are happy with yourself no one else's opinion matters. I have focused on this and it has increased my overal hapiness even when some have tried to purposely bring it down. Happienss is not something you experience, its something you remember. Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most the moemnen you are in now. I've tried my best to realize that I'm not going to be in the best situation to live a so called happy life. I have to work full time to pay bills, I dont live in the best neighborhood, have the best job, or wear the best clothes, but I'm happy with myself and that's all that matters. They say " The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things" . Well, if that is true then I say to always try to remain positive, and happiness will follow.
Happiness is always knocking at your door, you just gotta let it in. At any given moment, a slight change in your mood will reflect how you feel. Its a feeling within, I was very sensitive for many years of my young adult life. I wore my emotions on my sleeve, and it showed in certain situations. When I played sports as a kid, I was competive, did not like to lose. When I fell in love with a women, I was passionate, very romantic. Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product of a life well lived. Its spending time with the poepl you love and creating memories that last a lifetime. They say for every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of hapiness. There is no point to be angry, upset, or disgrunttled. It will not do any good, and will just lead to more turmoil. If you can control your thoughts, actions and reactions, you will be able to live of life of positivity, warmth, and love.
In the past, i tended to overanalyze every detail. I lived a life of worry and fear. I was scared, and didnt have the wisdom to understand how to break it. I was often stressed and knew it led to my hapiness. I embarked on adventure to try to eliminate this stress, by knowing the best way I knew how, by not worrying.